I just watched an episode of “Parenthood” at Star World. It is a new serial drama which tells stories of Braverman family and the conflicts inside their family. The focus is especially at the parenting issues and how parenthood is one of the toughest work ever.
In this week episode (June 30), there is a scene in which Adam Braverman caught his daughter, Haley, was having a-facebook-official boyfriend. He was so panic and unconsciously, became over protective. He grounded his daughter and took away her cell phone.
That scene reminded me of my Dad. He used to be very hard on me, with his discipline and rules all over me. He taught me to be independent and able to do my own stuff. He wants me to do my work with minimal assistance. I used to hate his way of teaching me, because as a kid it was a torture. I thought to myself, there are no other children ever do their own work by themselves, beside me. Dad never let me got help …
But … When I grew up and stayed in Australia, I realized how big the impact of his teaching to me. I knew what to do and how to be independent. I was having no difficulties to stand up by myself and face the new situation. I remember I’ve sent a birthday card to my Dad back then. The card was full with my appreciation for his hard work and his discipline on me. Because by then, I knew that I was loved by him!
Back to the movie. On the last scene, I saw Adam’s daughter came home with her boyfriend. She wanted to introduce him to the Bravermans. It was a good scene, in which the whole family was frozen and expecting Adam’s reaction. I couldn’t help thinking of what did my Dad feel when he saw my (ex) boyfriends. One thing I know for sure, my Dad told my a family that I’m his ultimate pearl in his life. When he said that, surely I had tears. I was crying because I felt loved by him.
When a Dad finds out that his daughter is dating, he will use his lizard brain, because he doesn’t know what to do. He is so afraid of losing his daughter (Adam’s wife to their daughter)…
I miss you, Dad!
Writing is my way to share it to you.