To be honest, this topic is randomly chosen, but purposedly written. I’ve been thinking a lot about choosing the right partner of my future, a.k.a husband. Well, I don’t want to get involved in any open relationship or domestic relationship, it will put me in the edge of mountain. The risk of getting rid by my partner is too high. Few months ago, one of my friend told me about this kind of relationship. At that time, the guy who wanted to approach my friend was attached to someone else and without any thoughts, that guy told my friend about that. At least, he was being honest…
Some people may consider age differences as one important element. My moslem friend said that in the Koran, it is said that the man must be older than the woman. Ideally, twice as older as the woman. In chinese tradition, it is also unwritten rules while looking for a husband or wife. The woman must be younger, so she can called her husband ‘gege’, meaning older brother. I had a relationship with a guy who was 15 years older than me, and it was nothing. Now I know that big number age does not define your big personality. So, for me age differences is a matter of number. If one day, I end up with younger man, I will say what my best friend had told me .. ” The heck with rules, I love you and you love me. Pursue me and take me wherever you go!” (Hey, EAS … it was a superb advice!)
Other people think hard on the income of their partners. Nowadays it is not always the man who have to work. One day a guy told me that he wanted to get married with a rich girl, so he does not need to work hard anymore. He thought that the girl’s parents will definitely buy them a house as wedding gift! I was so sick when I heard that, but to be honest, it was the truth that flew from his mouth … Some girls had been taught by their parents to get rich man as their husband. My old neighbor taught her twin daughters to attract rich man at all time. So, if there is a guy who ride bike or driving an old car visit her daughters, she will refuse that guy to meet her daughters. But if a guy comes with a fancy car and pocketful of money, the gate is open. Do you think that’s tragic? No, that’s the reality…
What else on the list? Personality, smart brain, willing to work hard, fear God, responsible, loveable, tender, … and the list may go on for the next 5 pages.
Do you have any comments on this topic? Help me to figure out the imperfect guy that can complete me …
3 thoughts on “Choosing Your Partner of Life”
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
(Sam Keen, from To Love and Be Loved)
I didn’t (don’t) have any specific criteria but I just “know it” “this is it”
well, i found a nice person, very nice one that he can be friendly to everybody and blend easily in almost various circumstances, but maybe not a hardworker, and i found a hardworker that is trying so hard to be pleasant person for me.. but isn’t really succesfull to do so… i guess all is about commitment..=) hope we can choose the right person that commited to be our partner.
Hanny! I think I know who is the first person hehehe =p
I miss you, dear … well, you are right, it’s all about commitment to maintain the relationship. No matter what!