People call me crazy when they learn about my plan of going back to school and do a PhD. Some would call me as an ambitious person, some would simply asked: "What is it that you're looking for?". My response was simply smiling. I had to wait for 15 year to finally get the scholarship … Continue reading Best lesson learned: I failed my PhD
One occupational hazard of being a psychologist is I tend to observe everything around me - what I heard, what I see and what I read between the lines. People may express their feelings and emotions in many ways. And the other party also owns their own ways to be reactive. Today I want to … Continue reading Feeling Unlovable
Yesterday, I had a talk with an old friend about his relationship. He's about to get married and he is facing a problem - not too big, but significant. He used to dream about having a tomboy girlfriend, independent and able to do her own stuff. But now, he is in a serious relationship with … Continue reading In Reality or Sway In The Dream?
I always believe that as a psychologist I own the honor to learn many factual things about others - while I am doing my work. Since this is Friday night, let we discuss something light - relationship. I am inspired by many cases that I have found on site - abusive relationship, gay relationship, cheating … Continue reading Oh Well, Relationship!
Today is a big day for my friend, Imelda and her husband, Erizal. Yes, today is their wedding day. Wedding day is usually seen as the final point of a relationship. Once you get married, then everything will be settle and finally reach the safe point. But, is that true? For me, wedding day is … Continue reading Wedding Party and How You Perceive It
Just before midnight, a good friend of mine -Jonah- called me up. He asked me if I know the latest update of an old friend from Perth, who's now working abroad. Jonah said that he just got a text from our friend saying that her boyfriend always swear at her and beat her up. I … Continue reading Said I Love You (But I Beat You)
I found this interesting term last week. I searched through online dictionary the phobia term of being afraid to fall in love, and I found Philophobia (check the complete phobia list on http://www.phobialist.com/) Philophobia is fear of being in love or fear to fall in love. I think I was a philophobic, a chronic one. … Continue reading Philophobic – What is That?
Few days ago I hang out with a friend. We talked a lot about daily stuff and suddenly he looked down to his feet. I knew that something was wrong. So, I asked him to tell me what's on his mind. He said, 'Cicil, I'm going to say something to you. But I know that … Continue reading Kissing You in Public
Few days ago, I got a text message from my cousin. He's one big fan of the late MJ. He asked me a question ... I thought it was just a random text. Cousin: Do you know what kill MJ? Me: Drugs? Cousin: Emptiness Me: Sucks, hey! Then I started to think ... Maybe my … Continue reading What Kill Us The Most
I am going to share a funny scene that I saw at a mall yesterday... I just finished my lunch with 2 friends from my hometown. On my way to the parking lot, there was a guy who came to my direction. He answered a phone call and talked a bit loud. He said, 'You … Continue reading Love Me OR Love My Money?