What I’ve Seen from A Long Queue

Last weekend, I went to a super sale from Planet Surf, a place which sell brands like, Spyderbilt, Juice, Insight and Billabong. The sale was up to 80% and the when I came, the place was so crowded. The moment of choosing items was fine, I got one backpack and a black short. My aunt and my sister-in-law also found some good items in the place. The real fight had just begun when we had to queue on the cashier line! It took me an hour to the ‘finish line’ …

But during those boring moment, I started to look around me, as I usually do wherever I go. I saw a couple who end up fighting because after waiting for a while, the boy wanted to cancel the items that they were going to buy. When they already stepped out, the biy changed his mind once again, said that they should be still in the line. The girl got agitated by his behaviors, to keep on changing his decision. After all, the girl alone was back in the line, while the boy was waiting near the exit door. Thanks to the people in the line, for they gave their previos space to the girl.

There were 2 hot couples, one on my right and one on my left. Both of them were doing the same things, expressing their romantic relationships in front of public. One girl on my left keep on touching her boyfriend’s cheek, as if anticipated him not to turn his face around. She play with his hair, touching his cheek and nose. She looked around as if inspecting if others were looking at her. The other couple on my right was also doing the same thing. The girl was holding on her boyfriend’s hands all the time. When the boy had to fix his glasses, she couldn’t wait until she got his hand back again.

A Couple

A Couple

The cashier of my line was a tall young man, with blond hair (all of the crew were blond!!! even though they’re Indonesian) and big smile. A smile too big until he forgot that he had 20 people waiting on his line. He asked questions, smile and acted on his best behaviors. For me, he slowed the process big times…

One common view throughout the 5 lines of queue was people with their mobile phones, except me, because I left it in my aunt’s bag.

I think I’ve seen so many things in just 1 hour in line. There were many other things happened at that time, but those 4 events were the most attractive ones for me.

Need to train my eyes to be sharper…

Reading People in A Deep Sea

It’s not like you read people in a real deep sea. It’s just a metaphor. For me, an effort to read people is like swimming into a deep sea. Imagine a deep blue sea in your mind now, so you can get the process that I am going through. If it’s too hard for you, get the encyclopaedia from your shelf and open the page on sea levels.

The first time your feet touch the sea surface, you can feel the sensation. Something different is touching your skin. That’s how it feels when we meet a new people for the first time. We can feel something different is showing off from that person, something that you sense unique or attractive. From that point, you can’t really ‘see’ that person. Obviously, you can see the performances, the appearances … and that’s all. It’s the same when you are at that sea level. Everything look blue, calm and beautiful.


Going deeper … it’s when you start to know that person well. Not really well though, but at least you started to notice his/her behaviors. You may get the slightest thought of what kind a person is that person. You may notice his/her habits: favorite food & beverage, favorite color, pulling hair, biting nails, or any visible actions. Remember, only the visible actions. It’s the same as if you see the beautiful fish are swimming in front of your eyes. So dazzling, colorful and yet somehow, you know it’s just the surface.

If you dig deeper into someone’s soul, it’s going to be a bit (and bits) harder that before. People tend to wear masks (even though they say that they Don’t). It’s very natural and sometimes happen unconsciously. Why do they wear masks? It’s a feeling of being afraid to be rejected. Very natural, right? In this point, you can see yourself swimming in a deeper level, where the sunlight is not so bright anymore. You started to see the shadows that you did not see before. You started to realize that the fish are not as nice as before. They are getting bigger and scary. In this level, the fish are not ‘designed’ to be seen, not as the fish in the surface. They are stronger and fierce, because the situation is not safe anymore. They may get attacked by bigger fish… So, masks = scarier? You figure it out.


When you reach the level of darkness and chill water, you may want to get out. Yes, you can get out with a bigger effort compare to the previous moment of getting in. The curiosity that we have usually bring us into the deeper level of someone’s soul. We will figure out his/her nasty habits (we all have such habits), the past and gravest mistake.

It always takes time to get to know someone better. It’s always about time. So, whenever you want to get to know someone very well, take your time. Imagine that you are swimming in a deep blue sea. Wear your oxygen mask and other equipment. Better be prepared than drown yourself away.

Enjoy the trip!