I had a chat with my old friend a few nights ago. He was commenting on my latest photo. He said that I look good in my hair – but it will be better if I could cut my hair in Lohan style. Within second, my thought was full of Lindsay Lohan and her hair. I tried to picture her hair, the layers, the bangs and so on.
While I was thinking, my friend kept on going with his review – you should cut your hair in layers, give Lohan’s bang and you’ll be gorgeous.
In the midst of my search of Lohan’s picture, I said yes to him. But then I remember that Lindsay Lohan had a long bang on her forehead. I am not a good person to take of long bang – because I’m easily mess my hair. So, I said no to him – as a revision for my first statement.
I told him that Lindsay Lohan’s hairstyle will look bad on me.
Then he replied to me: I was talking about Lohan fish!!!! Grow your bang, long enough to tie it up on the back and make Lohan’s style!
I was laughing out loud and couldn’t believe that we’ve been discussing different Lohan!
That chat reminded me of how we perceive single event differently. Each and everyone of us has our own perception on certain things – name, label, brand, colour, fragrance and many more. So when we have to deal with those things, we tend to interpret them according to our perception. When these difference don’t get a chance to be confirmed by every party, that’s when misunderstanding occurs.
Let’s count how many hours we spend in our lives to perceive one single event differently and end up in non-sense arguments?
I think we can use our time effectively to help others – instead of having the Lohan argumentation!
PS: thanks Sam – for the Lohan insight!
This week is my 3rd week of working at Premier Hospital Surabaya (Ramsay Health Care). The experience itself is priceless. Thanks to Josephine Ratna for her trust on me and -most of all- the knowledge and opportunities given to me.
Through the meetings with my clients, I learned that human mind is something big. It has its own universe, in which all the process of thinking, analyzing, and even feeling, happen.
The range of the cases are big. From an anxious housewife to a cheating husband. From a worry Masters student to a psychotic adult. Each case brings its own uniqueness and teach me its own lessons.
In a case of ‘dizziness provoked by anxiety’, the cleint was referred for CBT (Cognitive Behavior Therapy) sessions by his doctor. The process of CBT went well because he was willing to participate – which include doing his reading homework and build a dynamic discussion with me. He learned on how we think and perceive stimulations from our surroundings. If we have negative scheme regarding the happenings, then our brain will send ‘dangerous alarm’ to our body and cause physical symptoms – headache, cold sweat, fasten heartbeat or gastric problems. So, what should we do? Cognition reframing to change the negative scheme into positive one.
How to do that? Through CBT techniques.
Negative scheme is in our mind because we let that scheme shaped itself throughout the years. By planting a new positive scheme, our brain will adjust to this new scheme and will be able to see the happenings or surroundings in a more positive way.
There are too many things to share with you all. But I want to close this evening now. Hope this sharing can benefit you …
Writing is my way to share it to you.