Wild Mind

Have you experience the inability to control your mind? As if it has its own gas pedal and brake – and we just see everything in movie frame. Ability to think, analyze and reflect is one blessing for human being. But it also brings its own flaws. Our mind is the strongest sense among others and the sharpest weapon of all.

These past few days, I experienced the wildness of my mind. I know the symptoms all too well. Whenever I feel awake at night and decided to do some work, instead of sleeping, then it is a strong signal. My mind is powering up at night and compromise my need to be in bed early. I slept at around 12 or 1am and woke up at 5.30 every morning – because I need to prepare breakfast for my husband. Sometimes I also work early, class at 7.30, yoga at 7.00. For some reasons, I didn’t feel tired. I would feel sleepy around noon times, but nothing else. Yes, that’s the sign.

I also started creating scenes and scenarios in my mind. I am imagining the excitement of giving my Dad the latest collection of Queen for his birthday. I am thinking to go for Deustch class. I have a wishful thinking to travel all around Europe in a whole year with my husband and prior to that, one publishing house will pay for everything in return for a travel book from me. Call me a Liz Gilbert wannabe – because I certainly am. I also think the fun feeling of having another job with bigger income – so I can buy a new car and save up a lot more. See, how many things that I can think of and add on in a short period of time.

It is easy to be drowned in our own pace of thinking. It is easy to believe everything that we think in the first place. It is hard to channel out those thoughts into something positive. It is hard to stand up tall with some wisdoms. We need to choose wisely.

 

To add to my thought, I am obsessed with some writing movies. The recent movie that I watch repeatedly is The Words – with Bradley Cooper acted as the young writer who stole a script of another writer. Writing is my saviour when it comes to pour out the content of my mind. Whenever it goes wild, I just write. I have an ongoing project to write daily for a year. It helps me to discipline my behavior, and also my mind. I am aware that every single day I can pour out everything from my mind and keep my balance.

What do you do when your mind go wild?

“You Say Thank You Anyway”

Two days ago my Dad take-away 4 portions of nice Lo Mee from a nearby Chinese restaurant. When I had my second spoon, my Dad asked me if I already squeeze the lime onto my Lo Mee. Just when I said that I forgot it, the phone was ringing.

After a quick chat with my Aunt, I sat back to my chair. My niece, who was sitting next to me, said that she already squeezed the lemon for me.

My niece: Aunty, I did it for you (while showing the dry lemon)
Me: Ah, so nice of you. Thanks a lot!
My niece: But I dropped all the seeds into your bowl
Me: Never mind (smiling to her)
My niece: So even though I dropped the seeds, you say thank you anyway?
Me: Of course, because I appreciate your good intention to help me out
My niece: Ah, I see

I was surprised that she observed thoroughly. That short incident proved to me that a child see, a child do (from the saying: monkey see, monkey do). The best model of implementing discipline and values to our children is by doing it in our everyday life and let our children see it. It will send a loud and clear message to our children that good behavior is part of life and not a burden.

I wish a joyful week for all of you and family.

Lesson from The Rich

Two nights ago, I got a sudden invitation from Joe Kang, a good friend from Perth. He was in Surabaya for a day and invited me to have dinner with him and a few friends. At first, I thought it would be just a dinner. But then, I learned something very valuable from them.

The dinner was not just dinner or talk over food, but it was a small reunion among us: Joe Kang, Edwin Suryali, Yeo Kevin, Cynthia and myself. We were united by the same community called TOM (Turrist Orationist Ministry) back in Perth.

Previously, I had assumptions upon all of them: they were born into a filthy rich family and as soon as they finish school, they will have the company right away. Is that right?

The first assumption was right: that they were born into a rich family.

The second, was wrong!

Joe Kang shared a story about his first day of working at his father’s company. He was not introduced as the future generation of that company, instead, his father asked him to make coffee for the guests.

Edwin Suryali also had similar experiences. For the first 8 months of working at his mother’s company, he never get full salary, because he used to come late to work. So, his salary was deducted 30-60% every month, depend on how many days he came late at work.

Kevin Yeo is also facing the same experience. His mother will deduct 250,000 rupiah per day! if he can’t make it to the office at 830am.

While Cynthia, she is still at college, but she also shared a story about her father. They used to stay in Surabaya, but when the children (Cynthia and her siblings) started to go to Perth for higher education, her parents decided to move along. Her father used to own a factory and he was the Director. When he decided to move to Perth, he had to start everything all over again, from scratch. He’s working with Australian Post as a courier. One lesson is that her father was not afraid to start over again, no matter how old was he at that time.

I was amazed with the facts that I just learned about those rich kids! My assumption was wrong and I am reinforced to work harder than before.

I want to be rich! *fingers crossed*

Writing is my way to share it to you.