“Strategies To Deal with Bullying” Book

Good news!

For all of you who are working with children and interested to know more about Bullying, now there is a book available in Bahasa Indonesia. This book is written by David Goodwin and has been used widely by those who are working with children. It contains many information on the facts and forms of bullying, how to deal with bullies – for parents and teachers. How do I know? Because I was working as the translator for this book and been using this book for my paper work at college.

You can order this book by contacting:

Lexy Pello (0852 – 340 39082) or email at lexy_p@indo.net.id

It will be the first book of Bullying in Bahasa Indonesia. Get it now!

Personal Lesson Learned from David Goodwin

This part is the latest update regarding my activity at Children Counseling seminar with David Goodwin. The whole sessions with 57 participants had finished last night (Friday, September 18, 2009), but my session with Mr Goodwin won’t be done until today. I just had a great moment with him, for I had to accompany him in his DVD recording sessions at YPPII studio. He will publish 16 packages of children counseling tools for parents, counselors and children pastors.

About 10am this morning, we arrived at the studio and started to get ready straight away. I had to help Mr Goodwin communicate with the cool crews, Enos and Nuri. They were a good team and they did their job whole-heartedly. During his recordings, I tried to my best to behave. I listened to his speech, as if I was the only student in his classes. He had a very good stamina, for he could record 5 sessions (each for 45-60 minutes) with only 1 hour lunch break between the 2nd and 3rd session. We finished the whole recording at 530pm.

David Goodwin (far right), the participants and me (far left)

David Goodwin (far right), the participants and me (far left)

I learned many lessons today:

  1. Mr Goodwin is a very humble person. He has been known internationally as a speaker and children counselor, but he still holds onto the simple value of respecting other people and never underestimates them.
  2. He is also a good teacher and lecturer. I could understand his method of teaching without any head-scratching on my side. He was able to deliver complicated issues in easier ways, without simplifying the essence.
  3. He loves to throw jokes. I just knew this particular habit this year, even though I’ve met him last year. He said that he loves to ‘fooling around’. This is another way to show his humbleness. I just love this guy.
  4. He is a good listener and counselor. This skills has been trained for the past 40 years! He has helped children and their parents, which can proved his ability to help other people.

David Goodwin demonstrated Kids Keep Safe programme

David Goodwin demonstrated Kids Keep Safe programme

I bought Bullying book and worksheets CD-ROM from his programme. He also gave me a great book on children ministry called The World Needs Children Ministry Leader, which tells about leadership in children ministry based on Moses. It is going to be a great journey of reading his books.

I will catch up again with him next year, for the continuation of this seminar. It will be heap!

School of Children Counseling 2

Today is my first day to be at School of Children Counseling. It is actually the 3rd day of the event, but I couldn’t come earlier, for I still had my classes to attend. What I learned from David Goodwin at the first place is not to set high expectation based on last year’s experience. Last year was the first time this event been held and it was a great event. The participants were almost twice as much as this year participant, which hit 57 people. The commitee was also had hectic week last year, while this year seems a bit slow and not too packed.

I had a chat with the leading Pastors and his wife. They think that this year is somehow better, because the situation is not too crowded like last year. So, the speaker and the participants can get along better and they can interact in a better way too. I hope so too …

I only had two sessions today. The first one was about John, the previous client of David Goodwin who had ADHD back then. Now, John is in his mid 20’s and we do not know much on his development (for this is not part of the seminar). Goodwin mentioned the good development of John on his 21st birthday a few years ago. He was a very talented young man who took charged on a big Christian Seminar in NSW and, mostly, in his church.

The second session was movie night. It is still the same movie, Antwone Fisher. It’s a movie about Fisher, who had gone through hard times and rejection during his childhood and the damage still has its effects up until his adulthood. The traumatic event of being sexually abused, makes him a man who was still virgin at his 25 (of course, for some culture or beliefs, having pre-marital sex is not acceptable). The rejection from his mother turns him into an angry man, who unconsciously always be part of any quarrels and other forms of aggression. I have been watched this movie 4 times, but still I missed some detail parts of the movie. I am glad that I watched that movie again a few hours ago.

Note:

Being a counselor for children is a way of helping them recognizing their problems, help them to understand their situation and also, to help them find the best way out based on their characteristics. Working with children is exciting, and yet troubling, because we need to read beyond the lines. We can’t notice that any emotional/psychological abuse is happening, because there is no physical marks on the children. But, we can notice such abuse is happening, only if we can build a close and trustworthy relationshop with the children. They are the most honest people, who would change their behavior when their circumstances has been disturbed, even by a small incident.

So, keep the hard work, counselor!