Story of O: A Special Child

During my holiday, I’ve spent plenty of time to share with my friends and colleague. The thing that I love the most about sharing is the chance that we have to broaden our knowledge without much money to spent and also, it’s a time-effective process. I do not need to spend a few months to understand one case, just like my friend did. She is happening to be a therapist of special need children, and she has lots of students. One of her students is now my student. Let’s say his name is O.

O has one meeting per week with my friend to attend play therapy. O has been reported as a child who is unable to concentrate in the class and therefore, he couldn’t finish his works, at school and also at home. O is a cute and nice boy, and now he is attending P1 class.

At my tuition centre, O attends 3-times/week classes. What I observed about him are as following:

  1. He always rips the edge of his paper work which always stapled by his teacher. He said that he hates stapled paper. I suggested him to tell his teacher, not to staple his paper work and it seems that he’s happy with that. He understands the consequences of writing his name on every paper that he receives.
  2. He does not want to read the commands in every work. He always asks questions on how to do the problems.
  3. He complains a lot about his homework and weekly tests. He needs more than 2 hours to finish his daily homework and studying for his weekly tests.
  4. He is smart and loves to read books in free time.

According to story shared by my friend, O is very smart indeed, but he has difficulty to concentrate on certain tasks and tends to avoid any academic activities, such as: reading, writing and studying. He avoids those activities and many other, because he does not understand the purpose of those activities. He hates reading because for him, reading is painful. Through play therapy sessions, O is intervened by giving him understanding on the importance of reading ability. He has to read the instructions of his own chosen toys. He has to understand the rules of the game before he can play that game, with my friend (as his mate).

Regarding his writing problem, I had a letter-writing activity. The first one was to help him remembering names of colors for his English spelling test. If he could not remember on how to write ‘yellow’ correctly, he refused to write that down. So, I decided to write him a letter contains of ‘yellow’ word and I asked him to write the same word in his practice paper. It went well and I was so happy with the result.

Now, my friend and I are working hard to help him find the excitement of studying. If you can help us to solve this problem, please drop it through my email or commenting on this post.

A Heart Wants What the Heart Wants

“I spread my wings and I learn how to fly …I’ll do what it takes till I touch the skies

Make a wish, take a chance, make a change and breakaway …”

(Kelly Clarkson – Breakaway)

I’ve been dreaming to be a psychologist since I was 15 years old. I did not know what it meant to be a psychologist back then, but I knew this job was awesome. I always loved to listen to someone else’s problems. They could be my friends, my family or someone that I met in the street and shared their stories to me. I tried to grasp the points that they sent to me, so every conversation had its own meaning. And that was the start for me.

One of my Classes

One of my Classes

When I did my Bachelor Degree, I always wanted to do Masters. At that time, I already knew that I had a heart for children. So, I tried to keep myself updated with the latest news or activities about children. I had my clipping books and read as much as I could as a way to show my persistence and hard work.

Today, I’m writing this as a Masters student. When I’m looking back, I know that I’ve learned all the theories, history and basics for what I’m doing now. It seems slightly the same, for I have to sit and do my exams or all the procedures in the class. But it’s not the same. Masters had taught me to be someone better. Not to be someone else, but to be a better Cicilia. It taught me to adapt in a new situation with heaps of new faces. At first, I hesitated, but now I’m enjoying my class very much. I found out that discussion and team work is a big part of being an academia. I used to learn and keep everything for myself, but now I know that sharing is very important. I can gain knowledge from others, who has different point of view, broader connections or a smarter brain. I really want to enrich myself and I hope I can do the same way too for others.

While I’m doing my Masters, I still do my work as a teacher and owner of a tutorial group for International School students in Malang. I learn how to manage my students and assistants, even though I only have 7 students and 2 assistants. I learn how to take care of my students and listen to parents’ requests and complain. I put myself in that circle, so I will be able to listen and read the situation. I also learn how to manage my time, among my study, my work and other activities. Simply to say, everything that I’m doing at the moment helps me to have a better characteristic as a person.

Some of Masters students

Some of Masters students

Being ambitious and persistence is a good combination to explain about who I am. I always have big dreams and many of them had come true. I have met President Soeharto and Vice President Try Sutrisno when I won the national scientific paper competition as a 2nd winner back on 1997. After that, I was chosen as East Java representative to be part of national No-Drugs campaign. It was unbelievable and I’m very grateful for that experiences. I believe that a heart wants what the heart wants. I always wanted to be a successful woman in my life, so I know that I need to push myself to the limit in order to gain my dreams. I know that every hard work will be paid off.

With Vice President Try Sutrisno

With Vice President Try Sutrisno

Taking Masters is a way to complete what I want in my life, to be a child psychologist. I’m doing my best to complete my Masters Degree with satisfaction results and heaps of experiences. I never refuse any chances to learn about new things. I keep on practicing my English and writing as much as I could about child psychology and other updates ( I read and also discuss class materials with some friends and lecturers. I come to seminars and workshops and never lose a chance to build relationships with those experts. I even did my first time as a translator last September, when I was invited to be part of School of Children Counseling with David Goodwin from New Zealand. I learned many experiences that money can’t buy. I told myself to go for at least 1 training every year. I believe those trainings will develop me well and I will be able to share that knowledge to everybody else.

The hardest part for me is to be humble at all time. Sometimes I feel like blurt out when I talk or see someone who is working very slowly and taking his time leisurely. For me, time is something precious that will not come back and will not bring you back into whatever season that you used to like. So, I always embrace the time that I have by giving my best in everything that I do. My parents taught me to be someone responsible for whatever I do. If I’m a student, then I have to complete my responsibilities as a student. If I’m a worker, then I have to complete my responsibilities as a worker. It’s always about being responsible. That lesson had make me as who I am today.

with the committee

with David Goodwin and the committee

Now, I’m trying hard not to judge others before I know them. I’m learning not to make any assumptions about anyone at anytime. I also learn how to keep my mouth silent before my head think of giving comments. It’s a hard work but worth a try because I know that it will strengthen me in the future.

I believe that when someone is willing to pay the price to gain knowledge and keep on learning, that person will be an expert in his area. I want to be that person in child psychology area. I wish after I complete my Masters Degree, I will be able to work competently as a child psychologist and able to take significant part in this area. I’ll keep the hard work!

“The soul of a sluggard desires, and has nothing;

But the soul of the diligent shall be made rich”

(Proverbs 13:4)

(submitted as part of my self-development examination)