It’s a big shock to know that 17 girls made a pact to get pregnant in Gloucester HS, Massachusetts. An article at Time.com (Pregnancy Boom at Gloucester High) says that most girls were unhappy when they knew that they were not pregnant. They were all under 16 and most of them came from broken family.
Talking about the whys, there are many variables involved in this case. If parents have to face this condition, I think they should look back to what they have done in their family lives. Some parents or adults act as if they have no other choice beside getting divorce when problems come. If only they would think wiser for the sake of their children, I believe they can avoid such thing to happen. Being selfish is one main problem in marriage, because by getting married, you have to think outside the circle of yourself. It’s ain’t easy, but it needed to be done.
But still, the variables are too many. Courtney Macavinta, the founder of Respect Rx, shared her own pact when she was in HS. She said, “I was treating myself like trash and I was getting the same in return. This is easy to do when you basically believe you are trash. I spent almost three more years making it worse for myself“. Everyone needs to believe that she/he is valuable and many people love her/him. The influence of what people say outside has put them in the bottom of self-respect. They really need help in this problem.
The feeling of being unloved is also mentioned by those girls who made such a pact. They feel themselves as nothing and nobody cares or loves them. They believe when they have babies, they will experience what-so-called unconditional love. They choose the shortest way of being loved without seeing much further of the cost of having babies. It is indeed a happiness, but yet, they are too young to be able to control many problems that may occur in the future. Amanda Ireland, mother of 3-year-old Haley, just graduated from Gloucester High says, “Don’t, don’t try to get pregnant. People say, ‘I know what it’s like because I have siblings.’ But you really don’t. No one knows until they actually go through it. And it’s a lot of work.”
What can we do as adults and part of the community? Giving them pills will not necessarily a way out. Even the sex-ed will not be adequate if the teenagers have no supports from their family, people at home and adults who are close to them (relatives, teachers and many more).